Fancy a quickie? If you’re met with the question – or thought – it could lead to feelings of ‘uh, really?’. But we’re here to make a case for quickie sex. Why? Quick sex is often underestimated. It can be seen as something rushed, functional, or even a bit unfulfilling. But a quickie isn’t a shortcut to “real” sex – it is real sex. It’s a way to connect, tap into desire, boost your mood, lower blood pressure and embrace pleasure in the moment, without needing an elaborate setup. It’s not about the time you have, but how deeply you feel it.
Why quickies deserve more credit
Slow, sensual sex gets all the glory, but quickies bring something just as valuable: spontaneity. When life gets busy, it’s easy for intimacy to take a backseat. But passion doesn’t always need a two-hour window, candles, and the perfect playlist. Sometimes, it’s about a look, a touch, a shared spark that says, I want you.
Quickies aren’t about skipping foreplay or rushing to the finish line. They’re about letting go of expectations and diving into desire. In fact, quickies are quite liberating (and your post-coital endorphins live to tell the tale afterwards). The focus shifts from performance to sensation, making space for intimacy that feels raw, real, and electric.
Upping your quota can boost your body and mind
The chemical upside of quickies – and sex in general – are a biiig added bonus. Sex stimulates oxytocin, dopamine and endorphins, all of which make for a happier brain and emotional connection with your partner. After all, the health benefits aren’t clocking the amount of minutes that it took you to get there.
There’s also evidence to suggest that regular sex lowers stress-related blood pressure. The verdict? Get it any way you can. Quickies are super convenient, and, well, quick.
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Pleasure beyond the end goal
Quickies often get reduced to “fast orgasms,” especially for men and penis-owners. But climax isn’t the only measure of satisfaction. Sometimes, the best part of a quickie is the intensity, the urgency, the way it makes you feel seen and wanted. The heat of skin against skin, the breathless moment before contact, the electric charge of shared anticipation – that’s the kind of pleasure that lingers.
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For women and vulva-owners, pleasure is often framed as something that needs a slow build-up, extended foreplay, and the “right conditions.” But that’s not the full picture. A quickie isn’t about rushing through intimacy – it’s about embracing the moment for what it is. When we stop treating pleasure as a formula, we open the door to more fluid, fulfilling experiences.
The power of spontaneity
A quickie pulls you out of routine and into the present. It’s a breathless moment in the hallway, the warmth of hands moving with urgency, the kind of touch that says I need you now. Long-term relationships can slip into predictability, but a quickie is a reminder that attraction doesn’t have to wait for the “right time” – it just needs willingness.
And here’s the thing: excitement isn’t about what you’re doing; it’s about how you’re doing it. A spontaneous, unplanned quickie can reignite chemistry in a way that even the most well-intentioned “date night sex” sometimes can’t.
How to make quickies work for you
Not every encounter needs to follow a script, but making quickies feel satisfying means shifting how you approach them. Here’s how to make them feel just as good as a longer session:
Change up the location
Quickies don’t have to happen in the bedroom. A new setting (the shower, the car, the kitchen) adds to the excitement.
Consent is essential
A quickie only works when both partners are equally into it. Enthusiastic, mutual agreement isn’t just a given – it’s the foundation of every intimate moment. A whispered “now?” or a knowing glance can add to the excitement, but only when both partners are fully on board.
Let go of expectations
If you’re always aiming for a big finish, you might miss out on the intensity of the experience itself.
Know what works
When time is short, focusing on what turns you on most – whether it’s a specific touch, position, or toy like the LBDO Essensual Vibe – can heighten the experience.
Quick doesn’t mean careless
The best quickies aren’t rushed; they’re intentional. Fast doesn’t mean thoughtless, and brief doesn’t mean disconnected. If anything, a quickie can be one of the most present, engaged moments of intimacy because there’s no time for overthinking – just feeling.
Pleasure, redefined
Quickies aren’t a lesser version of “real” sex. They are real sex – intimate, exciting, and full of potential. Whether it’s a passionate morning moment before work or a heated kiss that turns into something more, they remind us that great sex isn’t about how long it lasts. It’s about how deeply it’s felt. And when we stop prioritising performance over presence, every experience – quick or slow – becomes more satisfying.
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Rachel Baker is the LBDO founder and CEO. Baker offers empowering tips and recommendations on embracing sexual wellness, intimacy, and pleasure.
