When it comes to living in an apartment – the etiquette behind sharing bathrooms, food and expenses seems to come naturally. But an area that is notably lacking a how-to guide? Sexual pleasure.
An important element of our overall wellness, Adulttoymegastore Sex Educator Emma Hewitt emphasises that those living with flatmates should not miss out on exploring the world of sex and sex toys. “Whether solo, partnered or battery-powered, everybody should feel confident in their ability to indulge in sexual pleasure in their own home,” says Hewitt. “Regardless of the closeness of your relationships, respecting the privacy and comfort levels of flatmates can be a hard balance to strike. However, this does not mean we should neglect our own needs – rather, that we just need to be more clever about it!”
Aside from keeping your toys out of sight, choosing a quiet sex toy is probably your best bet when it comes to pleasure on the DL.
For the ultimate discretion – wait for when your flatmates aren’t going to be home, and you’ve got some decent time to yourself. Getting to know their work or study schedule is a good move too. The earlier you do it, the better, so you can indulge loudly and freely!
In the case of toys, some are loud and there’s no getting around that. Big rumbly toys like wand vibrators require big motors and sometimes that means a loud motor that is best used when home alone.
However, luckily these days, there are some seriously quiet vibrators available (you can also look out for a waterproof toy, as using it in the bath or shower is going to muffle some of the sound).
Here, our picks of the best quiet vibrators on the market
Share Satisfaction Coco Suction Vibrator
Coco is one of the worlds best selling suction toys. Invented to mimic the sensations of a partner sucking on the clitoris during oral pleasure or oral sex. With whisper-quiet vibrations, you’re free to experience satisfaction with the knowledge that nobody else needs to know unless they’re invited to share.
Satisfyer Mono Flex
The Satisfyer Mono Flex stimulates both the clitoris and G-Spot with sensual vibrations – also via app control. The rabbit vibrator is made of high-quality, flexible silicone, which adapts smoothly to your contours and transmits intense vibrations to your hot spots. The vibrations can be controlled intuitively via the control panel or the free Satisfyer Connect App and comes with a discreet whisper mode.
Le Wand Le Wand Petite
Le Wand Petite feels super powerful in your hand. It’s the kind of thing you’d think you could hear from down the block. But this wand vibrator surprised us: we can’t imagine how you’d hear it on the other side of a wall.
Share Satisfaction Vibrating Stroker Sleeve
This open, ridged stroker pad that fits perfectly into the palm of your hand – fitting all shapes and sizes and genders. But that’s not all, the vibrating bullet provides sumptuous sensations that you’ve never felt before. You can use it to upgrade your handjob or for vulva massage.
Dame Kip Lipstick Vibrator
We’re always surprised by how much power Kip packs in such a small device. It’s only a few inches long, fits nicely in your hand (thanks to its three-sided design), and offers both flat surfaces and fluttery edges to play with.
Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator
Using Womanizer’s revolutionary Pleasure Air Technology, this sleek, ergonomic stimulator encircles your clitoris with a silicone head, offering 6 intensity levels to gradually build sensation. From a soft flutter to an intense pulse, the Pro40 sends you spiralling towards ecstasy with wave upon blissful wave.
Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator
A G-spot rabbit vibrator that combines silky silicone with 36 possible vibration mode combinations, the Greedy Girl is USB rechargeable and travel-friendly with 2 powerful motors and 15 speeds and patterns. Whisper-quiet and waterproof, it’s perfect for discreet, versatile play.
Lovense Lush 2 Pink App Controlled Rechargeable Love Egg Vibrator
Spice up long-distance lovin’ with Lush 2, a wireless wearable vibrator designed to simultaneously stimulate your G-spot and clitoris with its deep, rumbly and extra-quiet vibrations.
Smile Makers The Ballerina Vulva Vibrator
You’ll be surprised how quiet Ballerina is—because it’s powerful. Our theory? The squishy silicone on this device is extra thick, which might absorb sound as it distributes rumbly vibrations across its body.
We-Vibe Moxie
Moxie is made to secure into a pair of panties—there’s a magnet attachment—and fit snugly under your clothes. And it lives up to the promise of discretion—Moxie is whisper-quiet even on its highest setting.
LELO Ina 3
Ina 3 has range: the lowest vibration level is soft and gentle, the highest is pretty hefty. And not one of the 10 intensities or 10 vibration patterns is louder than a hum.
